Mira Kirshenbaum created Too Good To Leave, Too Bad To Stay to help someone like me, who just needed some deep help in coming to terms whether what I viewed as happening as fixable or it was time to leave my marriage. She created a diagnose like a doctor instead of being a trial lawyer. She takes major issues to fewer major issues as you work through the questions, and provides some well thought out examples to illustrate the questions for the ones that we could be on the middle point and it is neither a yes or no initially.
What I Love
My favorite part of this book is that Ms. Kirshenbaum has the ability to take her counseling experiences and create something to help anyone who picks it up. What else I love is that, in theory, I didn’t have to read the whole book once you get to the firm answer. I read the whole book. I had some underlying issues with trusting myself and my judgment at that point, not to mention by the time I picked this book up, I needed to ensure that I was able to remember clearly versus through the hurt and pain I felt.
What I Would Suggest
What I would change about this book is that I needed to rely on my memories to answer the diagnostic questions.
Every question required my own answer, and hopefully with my having clear glasses versus the angry dark glasses
One truth stuck out to me in this book, which Ms. Kirshenbaum does point out at the very beginning. Every question required my own answer, and hopefully with my having clear glasses versus the angry dark glasses; and certainly not what family members and friends who have their own different colored glasses on based on their own life experiences. The truth is what happens in your mind (based on those pre-conceived and learned relationship patterns), and your heart, and under a roof where no one else but you and your significant other can truly see the full day in and day out and no one can give answers. Ms. Kirshenbaum helps you get to that point to give yourself your own ideas to help.
Ms. Kirshenbaum, and my additional counseling prior to this book and after, helped me to see that there were many variables. In the end, I needed to decide if it was too good to leave, or too bad to stay.